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Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Dating and the Online world

Online you can be anything you want to be. You can be an Opera singer in the Entertainment Industry or a Famous Youtuber. Sometimes we stretch the truth to make ourselves look more amazing than we are. This is not something you want to do on purpose.

I strive for truthfulness and honesty. I do not want to make myself into something I am not. I have been on this unnamed dating site for a little over 2 years and I run into this problem more times than you can count. I personally write things that are completely true but when I read them I can see how any of those statements can be over analyzed. I do list that I play music and do Youtube but I quickly clarify that those are hobbies and that I do have a job and a car and take care of myself for the most part.

I saw a guy once that wrote that he wanted to be a professional musician or a scientist of some kind. I start talking to them and quickly figure out that this is a goal of theirs and they have not achieved it yet. One such case involved a guy that wrote that he wanted to be a professional Opera singer. He was also legally blind (partially sighted). Great, I thought, I could get my very own Andrea Botticelli. I went on 2 dates with him and I was sorely disappointed when he was not a professional level singer and also put on his Facebook that he was in the Entertainment Industry. That was not entirely true. I was also caught by surprise when he told me his family covers all his expenses while he peruses his dreams. This to me was a huge red flag.

Bottom line, I am not willing to carry a grown man on my financial shoulders, nor would I ever feel comfortable living on someone else's family money. I decided to interview a couple that included a sighted woman and a blind man. I asked them about my situation and how they made it work. It turns out the man was completely blind and he used the Center for the Visually Impaired and has a job and a way to support his wife. It was possible to have a relationship with a blind person as long as they pulled their weight and it was completely possible for someone with any level of impairment to do that. However the couple made me painfully aware that it is very likely that this Opera singer would likely stay in his financial arrangement forever. I asked Opera singer about this and he said he was not happy with his arrangement. But I knew deep inside that he was just telling me something to make me stay. A hope that he would change. I know better than that.

I would say that I am far from perfect but I have my life together in a manner of speaking. I do still live with my family but for a couple of specific reasons. I just got out of college not long ago and my mother is the only bread winner in the family and she needs my help. I pay my mother rent each month. On top of that I pay for my credit card and car payments and put away money in my savings account. I would say I am doing the best I can in the situation I am in right now. I have a full-time job right now. I have IBS but I still function each day. My parents do not give me money. They have taught me that I have to get on my feet and do what it takes to survive.

Anyways I am going to pay some bills and go have some fun.
Melody out!